There is obviously a market for this junk. But let's talk about something that might really work. How about being yourself? How about being honest and getting to know someone for a while? I assure you that you stand a better chance of finding what you really want that way.

Relationship author David Deida, hit the nail on the head when he said that what men really want from women is their responsiveness and what women really want from men is their full presence. Skip those manipulative seduction techniques and learn something real. Go to BlueTruth.org and read some of what Deida has to say. His book, “Finding God Through Sex” is a really radical new way of looking at both love and sex!

There are a lot of good books and workshops out there on relationships. Be picky. Talk to others who have been to these workshops before you pay your money. Sure, you can probably find all the one-night stands you want, but really, that's not what you really want, is it? Try “Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment” by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks or “Loving Relationships” by Sondra Ray or “A Conscious Person's Guide to Relationships” by Ken Keyes.

These, along with practice and persistence, will take you much farther than any love potions or seduction schemes!

Ashton Mettarod is a relationship counselor in private practice in Washington, DC. His own dating life led to a match made in heaven in 1998. Find more articles about dating at Free Dating Tips